Listen in as Dr. Gary Chapman and I talk about Keeping Love Alive During Deployments on the Focus on the Family Jim Daily broadcast! Follow this link and listen any time. Please note this is a two-day series, so don’t miss either one! These programs are based on our book, The 5 Love Languages Military Edition.
Below, from left to right: John Fuller, Gary Chapman, Jocelyn Green, and Jim Daly, in the broadcast studio in Colorado Springs. (The photo in the bottom right is me in the Green Room with my souvenir mug!)
HarperChristian Publisher is offering many ebooks at a steep discount for the Fourth of July holiday. The Military Wives’ New Testament with Psalms & Proverbs is one of them, only $4.99 right now! This is for the ebook, rather than the hardcover, but still a great deal. I was privileged to be the general editor for this volume, and worked with many military wives to add specific, relevant insights for you.
To see all my titles, both fiction and nonfiction, please visit www.jocelyngreen.com and click on the Books tab.
Happy Fourth of July, everyone!!
A note from Jocelyn: Today I’m honored to chat with Heather Gray, founder of Finish Strong Ministries. She was happily married to Major David Gray for eleven years until he was killed in action in Afghanistan in 2012. Heather served as a Key Spouse in the Air Force for six years and continues to serve military families as a Key Spouse Mentor. David and Heather had three beautiful children together who frequently travel with her as she shares a message of hope and resiliency to audiences across the globe. Today I’m celebrating with her the release of the book they began writing together: Faith, Hope, Love, & Deployment: 40 Days of Devotions for Military Couples.
Jocelyn: Welcome, Heather! And congratulations on the release of your new book today! Please tell us how it came about.
Heather: Faith, Hope, Love, & Deployment was born from what my husband and I considered necessity. We wanted something to keep communication open, draw us closer to the Lord and each other, and challenge us to dig into the Word . . . all while he was deployed. And I personally felt that handwritten letters were a lost art. I wanted the stack of letters from abroad, tied together with a ribbon like the treasure troves of past generations. Sadly, my husband was killed in action halfway through writing this book. I was left with few—but precious—letters, one of which I received on the day of his funeral. It was in response to a question posed on the topic of patriotism. He was asked to write a letter explaining why he was willing to lay his life on the line for his country. At a time when that very question swirled in my head, it was a balm to my aching heart to have it answered in his own handwriting. I knew then the value of what we had endeavored and vowed by the grace of God to finish what we had started. [click to continue…]
by Rachel Latham
PTSD is part of the story of thousands of military families. And it is part of our story too. But it can be a hard story…because how does one bring that up in conversation?
As a wife, I had been knocked off my feet by this, but now it is time to share this story, because we have walked far enough on this journey that I can tell you this with absolute, unshakable certainty:
God is there.
Right in the middle of it.
Right through all of it, guiding us through this storm.
And we are making it through.
What you just read was the beginning of my blog post about our family’s experience with PTSD. It is the most read post on my blog, even a few years after bring written. That little fact reminds me that it isn’t over; for some veterans and military families that is a new road they are traveling, for others, it is an old road that we still find ourselves on.
My husband recently shared this video with me about why veterans miss war . [click to continue…]
Happy Military Spouse Appreciation Day, everyone!
This year, I’m so excited that Dr. Gary Chapman and I have teamed up to offer some amazing give-aways- a grand prize plus second and third place prize packages, too!
We’re also posting the first chapter of our book, The 5 Love Languages Military Edition, over on my author blog.
To Enter the Give-Away:
To enter the give-aways, AND to read the first chapter of our book, The 5 Love Languages Military Edition, head on over to my author blog here. See you there!
*Note: Since the drawing is being hosted on my author Web site, comments on this post here at FaithDeployed.com are welcome, but do not enter you in the drawing. To enter, please visit this page and follow the directions at the end of the post. Thank you!!
by Kristin Schwabauer Rydbeck
Recently, I took an online course on how to assist military and their families. I learned about a few resources I wasn’t previously aware of and wanted to share these in case they would help. Please note, I haven’t trialed these, but am sharing them in case they are helpful. If you have tried these, please leave a note in the comments sharing your opinion of them.
- Parenting for Service Members and Veterans
This website is a tool to help military and veteran parents improve their parenting skills.
- Moving Forward: Overcoming Life’s Challenges
This website teaches problem-solving skills for veterans, military and their families. It provides life-coaching and education on how to deal with stressful situations.
- PTSD Coach
PTSD Coach is a downloadable app that helps military and veterans dealing with post traumatic stress disorder manage their symptoms on their own. The app allows people the ability to get help outside of therapy treatments and also provides direct links to support and help. http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/materials/apps/PTSDCoach.asp
I am a huge advocate of asking for help when you need it. So don’t be afraid to reach out to someone, especially a therapist, chaplain or trusted friend. There is no shame in admitting you need help. But know too there are lots of resources out there to assist you as well.
About the Author:
Kristin Schwabauer Rydbeck, daughter of a retired U.S. Navy chaplain, is a writer, photographer and editor at Gordon College in Wenham, Mass., by day. By night, she’s a gardener, potter, organizer and expert ice cream connoisseur. She loves to travel the world with her husband and dreams of someday being able to minister to the (military) community who gave so much to her. For now, if you want her to write about certain topics, leave a comment. She’d love to answer your questions.
by Jocelyn Green
I just reviewed a brand new book (releases May 1, 2014) and I want to make sure you all know about it, too! Faith Steps for Military Families by Lisa Nixon Phillips took me deep into God’s Word, revealed its profound relevance for today, and encouraged my heart. Military families, if you’re looking for solid, biblically-based guidance and hope, look no further. The truth held within the psalms Lisa has chosen to explore has the power to change lives.
Now here’s a little bit more about the book, taken from the book’s Web site:
Faith Steps for Military Families – Spiritual Readiness from the Psalms of Ascent explores the fifteen themes found in Psalms 120-134. Annually, as the early Israelites, also known as pilgrims, traveled by foot to Jerusalem for the festivals God instituted into their culture, they sang these psalms. Each Psalm of Ascent represented a step in their journey. Written by various authors–including king’s Hezekiah, David, and Solomon, each psalm communicates a theme, or a deep concern common in their day. These unique psalms are genuine accounts of real people who experienced life in raw form. Faith Steps for Military Families translates these relevant themes into the lives of twenty-first century military families who encounter many of the same themes as the ancient Israelites did.
Through vivid pictorial metaphors, the themes reveal: [click to continue…]
Lisa Nixon Phillips, veteran military wife
by Lisa Nixon Phillips
It is like the dew of Hermon, which falls on the mountains of Zion.
In my previous article, we learned about the metaphors and their meanings in Psalm 133:1-2 and their importance for our military families–namely, how unity spreads, unifies, and builds resolve–that necessary grit to overcome the challenges of the military lifestyle.
Today, we’ll unpack the meaning of verse 3. David, our psalmist, doesn’t want us to miss the all-important takeaway. This is the golden nugget of the entire psalm. Verse 3 says, “It [unity] is like the dew of Hermon, which falls on the mountains of Zion.” There is an interesting geography lesson that makes this psalm more meaningful.
David is describing two mountains: Mount Hermon and Mount Zion. Mount Hermon is the tallest mountain in northern Israel. It stands approximately 9,000 feet tall and creates the morning dew. Mt. Zion, located in Jerusalem, is a mere 2400 feet tall. Yet, the dew manufactured over Mt. Hermon falls on both, even though these two mountains are 145 miles apart. [click to continue…]
Lisa Nixon Phillips
How very good and pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity. It is like the precious oil on the head, running down upon the beard, on the beard of Aaron, running down over the collar of his robes. Psalm 133:1-2 (NRSV)
If you’re familiar with King David’s story, you know that he was probably a better ruler than a parent. He triggered a string of unfortunate consequences when he sinned with Bathsheba. To make matters worse, he tried to cover it up by having her husband, Uriah, killed in battle. Even though God forgave David, He didn’t hold back David’s consequences. “Thus says the Lord: ‘I will raise up trouble against you from within your own house…”’ David’s consequences included a tumultuous home. His son Absalom plotted to overthrow him. David’s other son, Amnon, raped his half-sister, Tamar, then Absalom took revenge two years later and killed Amnon. It isn’t hard to see why David’s palace home starved for unity.
I can’t help but wonder if David wrote Psalm 133 while enjoying a rare moment in his household in which things had quieted down, his family members were getting along for however brief it might have been, and he reflected on how sweet unity is “when kindred live together in unity” (verse 1). [click to continue…]
By Lisa White
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. –Philippians 4:6
Early in December, my husband was away on a trip that was supposed to last no more than five days. The week started out smoothly, but soon a series of events caused my emotions to enter into a downward spiral and I found myself anxious, overwhelmed, and negative. Things that shouldn’t have been a big deal became mountains I was struggling to climb. Then, when my morale was at its lowest, my husband informed me that his trip had been extended three extra days. Again, this shouldn’t have been a big deal, but for weeks I had been depending on him to be home on one of the days so I could attend a function and he could watch our son. I became angry and wondered why I bother to depend on him in the first place when he has a job that is so unpredictable. [click to continue…]
A note from Jocelyn: The following is Part 2 of a two-part series written by a military wife who chooses to stay anonymous. Though her identity is hidden, she bravely reveals her mistakes, her pain, and her healing.
I have chosen the way of truth; I have set my heart on your laws. I hold fast to your statutes, O Lord; do not let me be put to shame. I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart free. – Psalm 119:30-32
The night I told my husband I had cheated, five years after the fact, I was literally screaming and shaking violently in fear.
You see, five years earlier, I led a secret life while my husband was deployed in the military. I did everything I thought I’d always wanted to do. I drank. I danced. I went out every weekend night. I had always been the good girl prior to that point, and I didn’t want to be good anymore. And in reality, I was sick – and lonely – and I felt desperate for attention, any kind of attention. Mind you, I still wanted my husband, and all of his loyalty and affection, too. [click to continue…]